Yesterday we spent a wonderful day helping our friends Peter and Ali celebrate their wedding day.
Peter (the Groom) and my Peter went to University together, many moons ago, and I have known him a little over 15 years, after becoming part of (my) Peter's life.
Ali we met a little over a year ago, and after me attending her Hen weekend last week, I feel like I have known her for years (although and surprisingly to me, at first she thought I didn't like her).
Both Ali and Peter have been married before, but this time around they have found something special in each other, and we can rejoice in that.
Yesterday saw all the elements that these two people enjoy with, and about, each other, come together in a day of celebration. The gathering of their friends and family, their sheer joy of seeing these people come together to help them see the day through with excitement, enjoyment, tears and laughter.
The bride was radiant, attended by her bridesmaids, and escorted down the aisle by her mum, to a Groom and his Best Man, both looking resplendent in their morning suits, the smiles on their faces reflected by the smiles on everyone that was there to witness the day.
During the signing of the register, Peter's niece played guitar and in a crystal clear and wonderful voice, sang a song of her own composition (she has to go far, she is truly incredible) and then the new couple walked out into the beaming sunshine, to be joined by the gathering for photos, drinks on the lawn and a catch up of old and new friends.
Siting down later to a wedding breakfast that was truly delicious, (and credit to the staff of the Hotel here, as they where honestly marvellous throughout the whole of the day) as well as credit to Ali and Peter for picking such a truly wonderful menu, we came at last to the speeches. First up was Andy, whose eloquence, charm and warm humour dragged Ali's past kicking and screaming into the room, fuelled mainly on tales that involve an enormous amount of cocktails, to have the gathered party reaching for anything to wipe away the tears of laughter. Such was the quality of the speeches that I gave up taking pot shot photos, to listen and enjoy them. Next up was Peter's son and Best Man, who gave a short, funny and confident speech, handing over to his father, the Groom.
Now Peter is an excellent public speaker, with his skills honed through his student years, and through many years as an adult involved in local politics, and his speech kept that entire room rapt with attention, wracked with laughter, and on a couple of occasions, soliciting tears too. It was a speech that would have made anyone proud to have spoken, and from me to him, it was a pleasure to be there to listen to it, to hear his words of wonderment, love and fortitude. For this speech had to encompass many things, and touch on the untouchable, which was Peter's (the groom) cancer, that was diagnosed in the spring of this year. But this was no maudlin affair, yes there were tears, but no surprises, we all knew the score and we knew too, as sure as God made little green apples, that Peter would discuss it, and this is what he surmised his predicament with, and you know, this should be shouted from the rooftops in celebration of this wonderful, mad, and truly in love couple, he said this " I have cancer.. but cancer doesn't have me". By god, we gave that man a round of applause.
So how do you follow that? Well that was down to my Peter, who, by sheer fact that he cannot find it in him to throw anything away (and it truly irritates the
bejezzus out of me, but for this he gets dispensation) managed to find a number of posters and news papers that both he and Peter (groom) where involved in in their student days. My how young they both looked. A hard act to follow, but he gave a speech delivered with humour and the friendship of years that shines through on these occasions.
We decamped to the bar for a while to gather our strength, greet new friends, laugh, cry and steel ourselves for dancing and revelry, and boy did we dance! Yes there was a tribute to Patrick
Swayze by me and Claire, with the help of a dining chair, Peter and his son's tap steps to Adam Ant where a treat, and his niece's singing while the evening buffet was served kept people in rapt attention. The night drew to a close with a nightcap in the bar, kisses and good nights, and exhausted we slept the sleep of the contented.
We enjoyed a breakfast with the bride and groom and guests this morning, and finally said our goodbyes, while the happy couple prepared to jet off for a week in the sun. ..... And that's the whole point of this post, the happy couple, because that is what they are, utterly happy. Nothing can take that away from them, and I think my life is richer because of them, and when you can say that, what can stop you from being happy.....